How to Make Sex Last Longer
is supposed to be a great experience for most
people. Unfortunately for some of us, it is one of
those experiences that gets over, even before it
begins. For reasons as varied as stress, tiredness,
performance anxiety and premature ejaculation, a
multitude of people actually dread the possibility
of another romp in the hay. Some people feel so
hopeless, they often form a terrible mental block,
worsening their plight. But, there are several
things you can do to prolong your climax, to enable
you to last longer in bed.
Before the act, don’t stress it:
One of the major reasons for premature ejaculation
is performance anxiety. Remember, don’t stress about
something that hasn’t happened yet. Don’t let
‘what-ifs’ and other negativity inducing thoughts
cloud your mind and put a dampener (quite literally)
on your confidence. Instead, a little meditation,
relaxation, doing something you really enjoy, like
listening to music will definitely help in keeping
you in a positive frame of mind.
For some people, not being able to sustain an
erection is more about a sedentary lifestyle than
anything else. That’s why make sure you maintain an
active lifestyle. That doesn’t mean you quit your
desk job and become a coal miner or lumberjack,
simply jog or walk for half an hour a day, or gym
thrice a week and you’ll be sorted.
Try to distract yourself:
If you find yourself getting too excited during sex,
try to distract yourself from how turned on you are
by thinking about something completely unrelated to
the situation, like work or school. Temporarily
diverting your attention can help you relax and slow
down. Whatever you think of, make sure that it's
something that doesn't turn you on sexually in any
Masturbate, start, then stop, then start again:
Using the start/stop technique while masturbating
really helps in making your erection last for a
longer time. It is quite simple, masturbate until
you feel like you’re about to reach your climax and
then reduce the intensity of your ministrations, or
stop completely. After a brief interval (like a
couple of minutes) begin again and continue the same
technique. You will find that you will have
programmed yourself to act this way, during the act
Men tend to get nervous about partnering with a new
partner for sex. But, they aren’t nearly half as
nervous when having sex with a partner they’ve had
Wear a condom:
Men often complain of reduced sensitivity and lack
of friction while wearing a condom, which in this
case is precisely what you need. Besides certain
variants of condoms have a delay gel in their
lubricant, which helps prolong the sex. Then there’s
also the fact that condoms help prevent STDs and
Change focus: Rather than concentrating on
ejaculation, concentrate on your partner's pleasure.
Let her be in control:
The person who is in control is usually the one
experiencing most of the pleasure; letting her be in
control can help decrease some of the sensitivity
Prolong ejaculation and delay it by holding the tip
of the head of the penis. Squeezing the tip of the
penis can help control premature ejaculation.
Use a delay gel:
Delay gels are designed to reduce sensitivity in
your genitals and make you last longer during sex.
The active ingredient in most of these products is
benzocaine, which is an inherent desensitising
agent. Some delay gels also have more organic
ingredients, which can increase a man’s stamina.
The scrotum rises as a man reaches orgasm and is on
the verge of ejaculation. So, delay ejaculation by
pulling the scrotum away from the body.
Breathe slow, breathe deep:
Breathe deeply instead of taking constant short
sharp breaths, helps in regulating your heart rate
and keeping your heart rate down means a constant,
more sustained supply of blood to your penis, which
keeps it harder for a longer time.
Relax and be positive. Premature
ejaculation is as much a physical issue as a mental
one. Try not to create a self-fulfilling prophecy by
labeling yourself as sexually incompetent in any
way. Approaching sex with confidence, self respect,
and a positive attitude rather than fear and
self-doubt can make all the difference for both you
and your partner.
Relax and be positive:
Premature ejaculation is as much a physical issue as
a mental one. Try not to create a self-fulfilling
prophecy by labeling yourself as sexually
incompetent in any way. Approaching sex with
confidence, self respect, and a positive attitude
rather than fear and self-doubt can make all the
difference for both you and your partner.
Combination of thrusts:
Delay ejaculation or male orgasm by combining
shallow thrusts with deep thrusts. This technique
helps prolong ejaculation and will make you last
longer in bed.
Start with foreplay, oral sex and passionate
kissing. Start slowly and you'll end up lasting
Take the time to whisper sweet nothings:
Take time out and talk to her, while in the midst of
the act and this will take your mind off your
‘performance’ and put you at ease. Besides, making
love to a woman and taking the time to talk to her
during the act is a very intimate thing to do.
It is important to caress your partner during
foreplay, remember to be gentle. You can begin with
stimulating the clitoris and then slowly put two
fingers into the vagina, while continuing to caress
Change positions often:
Changing positions often increases the element of
adventure and also shifts your attention. As an
added incentive, why not switch to a position that
gives her more pleasure, or perform oral sex on her,
just to show her that her pleasure means the world
•Try to keep sex at a relatively slow pace, at least
in the beginning. Control your tempo if you can, and
remember that sex isn't a race.
•Take Hot Bath Before Sex.
•These tips won't help with erectile dysfunction,
the inability to achieve or sustain an erection.
If you think you may have ED, talk to your doctor to
find a treatment option that's right for you.