Anger : A Balancing Act
>It is the person who hates that suffers.
Studies show that people who repeatedly become angry over
everyday stresses are setting themselves for health problems.
Heart disease, stroke, high blood pressure and high cholesterol
are just a few of the major risks.
Unprocessed or suppressed anger leads to
stomach-aches, headaches, anxiety and depression.
So how do you know if you're too angry?
Here's a checklist:
1. Do people often tell you to calm down?
2. Do you use alcohol, drugs or cigarettes to
calm you down?
3. Do you have trouble sleeping?
4. Do you sometimes feel misunderstood?
5. Do you often feel like attacking someone
verbally or physically?
If you answered yes to any of these questions,
you might want to reassess yourself. Anger causes stress and
vice versa. This is because the body produces stress hormones to
help you with a "fight or flight" response. But when the body
produces too much of these hormones, a person would usually feel
emotional, irritable, anxious and depressed.
A long period of stress weakens the immune
system, increases bad cholesterol and eventually causes disease.
Balancing your work and recreation is just one
key to taming your anger
The emotional scale:
1. Express your feelings in appropriate ways.
Being assertive is not aggressive.
2. Think before you act. Ask yourself if the
offense is authentic or just a trigger of past undesirable
3. Choose. You may choose to react impulsively
and regret things that you said, or you may respond by
acknowledging the person's emotion without refuting it.
The physical scale:
1. Cut down or avoid caffeine, alcohol and
cigarettes altogether. These are substances that alter your
state of mind and judgment.
2. Exercise. It produces "happy hormones" like
endorphins that make you feel good and relaxed.
3. Talk. Opening up to
friends and family might not solve the conflict, but it should
keep the grudge off your chest.